After hearing that sixteen women committed suicide when her son, Gongpu Wenbo, who was a high official in the state of Lu had died, the mother did not shed a single drop of tear.
She said, "My son was not a good man. when Confucius was dispelled from Lu, he did not follow him to seek truth. Now he is dead, and there were sixteen women who committed suicide for him. So it is obvious that he treated elder people harshly while he was very lenient to women. So I would not consider him to be my son at all."
Coming out of the mouth of a mother, these words can show the virtue of the mother. If a wife said this, she would be considered to be a jealous wife. The same words uttered from different people can have different effect.